"So hard to let go of a long term relationship.
Is it because you really love your partner so much
or
is it just because you're used to be with your partner
that you can't imagine living life without them?"
Is it because you really love your partner so much
or
is it just because you're used to be with your partner
that you can't imagine living life without them?"
I once asked this to a close friend who's currently been dating her boyfriend for almost 3 years and who's previously dated her ex for 4 years. She paused, thinking for a while before finally saying "You're right. They're not quite different."
This has been caught in my head for months and this thought came simply because I was never able to stay in a relationship for a long time. That close friend of mine said "It could happen that we were still in love but well, I can't lie on the second thought, though."
What I mean with the second thought is that the relationship gets more universal, just like your relationship with your brothers or sisters at home. If somebody asks you "Do you love your sisters? Do you love your brothers?", the most probable answer is "Yes, I do" because it's kind of been programmed in your mind that "He's my brother, I love him. She's my sister, I love her" instead of asking yourself "Do I really love them? If yes, then why I do?" In my opinion, it's sort of the same thing regarding to long term relationship. My statement is also based on someone who's been married for more than 20 years who once said "Been married for more than 20 years then when you look at your spouse, it's more like looking at your sibling. The same person who you sleep in the same room with, the same face you look at when you wake up and before you go to bed. The only difference is you have children from them."
This is such a random thought but kinda scares people (who's been in a long term relationship) when I ask them about this cause they can't even tell whether it's more the first thought or the second thought. So, well, which one are you?
This has been caught in my head for months and this thought came simply because I was never able to stay in a relationship for a long time. That close friend of mine said "It could happen that we were still in love but well, I can't lie on the second thought, though."
What I mean with the second thought is that the relationship gets more universal, just like your relationship with your brothers or sisters at home. If somebody asks you "Do you love your sisters? Do you love your brothers?", the most probable answer is "Yes, I do" because it's kind of been programmed in your mind that "He's my brother, I love him. She's my sister, I love her" instead of asking yourself "Do I really love them? If yes, then why I do?" In my opinion, it's sort of the same thing regarding to long term relationship. My statement is also based on someone who's been married for more than 20 years who once said "Been married for more than 20 years then when you look at your spouse, it's more like looking at your sibling. The same person who you sleep in the same room with, the same face you look at when you wake up and before you go to bed. The only difference is you have children from them."
This is such a random thought but kinda scares people (who's been in a long term relationship) when I ask them about this cause they can't even tell whether it's more the first thought or the second thought. So, well, which one are you?
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